Yesterday, we went to Frescati for the afternoon. We also saw the Pantheon. I thought it was pretty amazing how architecturally advanced the Romans were to be able to build a structure with a dome and shape the floor in a way to keep it from flooding or collapsing in on itself. Sometimes, I wonder if the Romans ever intended for their legacy to last so long. What would they think that we are touring their buildings, taking photos of their homes, and scavenging all the items left behind? Were they like the Egyptians, who wanted this? I guess it is something we will never know for sure. Many times, we have stories and scenarios in our head of how a certain group of people lived based on the evidence we have, yet there is so much evidence left to be discovered in a place like Rome that it is hard to tell if the stories are accurate or not.
Our day yesterday also consisted of a tour of the church of bones. I learned where the name espresso comes from: monks! The shrines of bones, honestly, were creepy to me. I understand the meaning behind it and why the monks did it, but I don’t understand why someone would go to such great efforts when dealing with dead bodies. It was weird and impressive at the same time because the decorations on the ceiling were made of jaw bones, the arches were made of thigh bones, and chandeliers were made of back bones. It is very creative, but I would never want my own dead body to be mutilated and stored with so many other dead bodies. The monks were trying to show that the human body is just a passageway. It was a way of saying, “Your soul has moved on and this body is needed no longer. Do not be afraid of death because the soul still lives on.”
It was a shame that we were not allowed to take any pictures, but I got a postcard instead. We also went to the park in Rome. I thoroughly enjoyed just strolling on the sidewalk outside under the shade of the trees. I don’t think I have ever felt as content and calm as I did in that moment. It was really impressive that the map of the park was (whether an accident or on purpose) in the shape of a heart: the heart of Rome. People enjoy the simple things so much more in Italy. The people walk here, there, and everywhere. They eat in outdoor cafes and laugh with their friends and family for hours. They ride their little double bikes together, smiling away. Families were eating lunch on picnic blankets; couples were strolling together hand in hand and talking. Others were running. Overall, I had the time of my life in Italy. I wished I could have stayed longer, but I am determined to come back again when I learn the language. I also noticed, early on actually, that people in Italy (and probably all of Europe) travel in pairs of two more than they do in the States. In America, I always tend to see a group of girls walking and laughing together, or a group of guys hanging out together. In Italy, it was usually just one girl and one boy. They walk arm in arm and simply talk to each other. The simple things in life are better.
In Frescati, we went to dinner at this place that used to be a wine cellar. Josh and his family came with us. It was a beautiful and wonderful evening and end to a busy day. We ordered a bunch of food and passed stuff around like a big Italian Thanksgiving dinner. I had some zucchini strips, some prosciutto, and some of their famous slow-roasted pork. It was the best zucchini I have ever had and the most flavorful pork as well. After dinner, the sun was setting and we had an hour to spare before our train ride home. We strolled with our full bellies over to the market. It was my favorite market of the entire trip, so I wished we could have stayed longer. The salesman asked me where I was from and I said, “America.” He asked, “New York?” and I said, “No, Florida.” “Oh! I have friends who live in America and it’s such a great place to live.”
I just nodded my head. I guess it is something I take for granted. America really is a great place to live, so I shouldn’t complain, even if it isn’t perfect.
We rode a taxi home. It was such an amazing and fun experience. The “road suggestions” were a bit crazy at times because the driver was in the center of the road, weaving in and out of cars, and slamming on the breaks for pedestrians. Rome at night is a beautiful place, and a taxi ride at night gave me a whole different perspective than walking down the sidewalk.
This morning, I woke up early, finished all last minute packing, and rode a taxi to the airport. It was bittersweet. I was really going to miss the place, miss the people, and miss the whole experience, but at the same time I am excited to get home to my mom and tell her all about it. In some ways, I feel like a completely changed person and I’m just hoping I can keep it that way; a change for the better.
Ending with a few final notes, I want to say more about what Josh said yesterday at dinner. “I take bits and pieces of culture from around the world and incorporate it into my own family. I leave the bad behind and take what I like from other countries.”
I would love to say that everything is going to be different when I get home, but I don’t know if that is possible. I can’t make my family change. I can’t make someone else act in a way they don’t want to. So, I will keep Italy in my heart and mind and maybe one day, when I am on my own, I will move there. I learned to savor my food; not to rush, but rather take time to “smell the roses.”
It is interesting how Italians seem so laid back and slow, but in the end they get more done than Americans. Instead of running around in circles and creating unnecessary stress, they just take life as it comes. I am also going to make more of an effort to enjoy the simple things. I am going to disconnect from the internet more, go outside more, and definitely walk more. It was so weird to me how their culture isn’t obsessed with fat, weight loss, and calories, yet the majority of the people are still super skinny. This is the lifestyle I want to live.
There is no need to have more of anything, as long as it is quality. More isn’t always better. Instead of eating a giant plateful of food, Italians savor a smaller amount of food. Dining is an experience, not a race. In the same way, life should never be a race or a contest.
I love the big city feel, as well. When I grow up and live on my own, I want to live in a place that has small sidewalk cafes, instead of huge fast food corporations, a place where the people rule the road, rather than cars almost hitting me while I am outside. a place where everything is in walking distance of my home. I want to feel safe and alive in the evenings, the way I did in Rome. In contrast, in Florida, I feel scared to be outside past eight o’clock. I have also grown up in a place where bigger is better. This is not the truth. Big cars have nothing to do with manliness. Big houses are unnecessary. Big meals is gluttony. I also want to have more to life than just having a job when I grow up. I am going to take things easy and enjoy the company of my friends just like Italians do. Simplicity is best.